The Path of the Warrior is a therapeutic technique which I created to transform the psychological injuries of the child.
When a child is being injured it will just say “That hurts” without blaming the outside for this injury because a child is always in the inside and it is its inside that feels the pain. Later it will look at where the injury came from and it will find out that the pain came from the outside. Then it will be able to say “You hurt me” and it will either express or suppress its anger.
Psychological injuries are like thorns in our feet. They always hurt us even when we have forgotten them. If we want to free ourselves from them we must pull them out even if this therapy may be painful.
In general a child will suppress its anger because it doesn’t have the right or the means to express it and because it loves its parents too much. This suppression will always be present in the child, be it consciously or unconsciously, and it will express it towards itself or towards others but rarely in order to grow or to transform it.
The Path of the Warrior means to rid oneself of one’s behaviour, of the injustice and pain one has suffered by reversing the process. This process should be done with a partner who will take the role of the person responsible for the pain. If the real person is open, receptive and sympathetic the process can also be carried out with this person.
The first stage: Expression
The suppression of this injustice and pain is verbally expressed in order to relive and become conscious of the former situation.
The second stage: “You hurt me”
The pain is given back to the other person by way of expressing one’s anger: “You hurt me” and by hitting on a cushion or hitting the ground with a cushion, not against the other person but for oneself. All the ‘negative’ feelings, the anger, aggressiveness, hate etc. are shared while looking into the eyes of the partner.
The third stage: “I am in pain”
All the pain is expressed while bending forward and touching the ground or the cushion with one’s forehead. Tears are allowed to flow while simply saying “I am in pain”. The partner may put his hands on the shoulders of the warrior, receiving him in the heart.
The fourth stage: Transformation
When the crying is over the two persons embrace and simply say “I love you” to each other from the bottom of their hearts. The warrior may also say “I love you” to the person who originally hurt him. Transformation will now happen naturally, all by itself.